Vows, Should You Write Your Own?

April 11, 2019

Vows, should you write your own?

VOWS. For y’all planning (or dreaming up) your wedding, do you plan to write your own vows?

Chris and I didn’t write our own and it’s my only regret from our wedding day. Part of me wishes we did, but the other part of me knows it’s because I am a fairly private person and I would have hated every moment of reading them out loud in front of our guests (sorry guys LOL). Looking back, the perfect compromise would have been to read them to each other privately pre-ceremony during the first look portion of the day. But since we didn’t, we’re currently dreaming up a very intimate vow renewal ceremony so that we can get the chance to do the portion we chose not to do the first time.

SO, VOWS… Should you write your own or not?

Now, we’re not in the business of telling you what to do on your wedding day but we do want you to really sit down and think about what’s best for you, your relationship and YOUR day. Wiring your own vows is something we really want to encourage you to think long and hard about, your wedding day is not about the party or the decorations, it’s about your marriage and your love.

Every love story is unique and we believe that your vows should be too. Your vows can tell your story, predict your future and tell all the promises you want to make. They should be inspired by your love for the person you are choosing to marry. During the chaos of the wedding planning process it can easily feel like everything is getting out of control… Sitting down to write your vows is a wonderful opportunity to ground you, help you re-connect to your partner and remember why you two decided on forever in the first place. Writing your own vows really makes your wedding feel like you, and reminds you (and your guests) why you will keep choosing each other for the rest of your lives.

Now, if you’re like me and you’re not so thrilled about reading your personal vows out loud for everyone to hear, doing so during a first look or a first touch is a great option to do so in a private setting.

And if you think it will all be too hard to say out loud, writing it in a letter for your partner to read on the morning of your wedding day is great to really get them excited to say I do forever.

If you do decide to write your own vows and share them at the alter, dont think too much into it. Be honest, Speak from the heart and they’ll be perfect! And don’t be surprised if there are a lot of teary eyes in the room. There’s a reason why guests pack their pockets and purses with tissues at a wedding!